Some people are too bothered about being happily married that they forget to be happily single! Only a happy single can make a happy spouse!
The thing is that many singles, especially ladies, have put their lives on hold just because they want to get married. Their prayer all day and all night is on marriage.
Their outings are basically reduced to prayer programmes on marriage. Their desperation for marriage has robbed them of life! Com’on, you can’t live like that. It’s time to LIVE and BE HAPPY! It”s time to create your own happiness and enjoy life!
Here are some ways to CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS …
1. FORGET ABOUT YOUR AGE!
The age factor is the main reason why many have become desperate. Please, forget about your age and focus on the lovely people God has put in your life.
2. GO ON FRIEND’S DATES :
You must have a few good friends who you agree with and add to you, right? Plan a date with them. Plan special fun programmes that will distract you from your “getting married dilemma”. Hanging out with good friends is therapeutic and exhilarating!
3. ONE ON ONE DATES:
Sometimes you don’t want the crowd and the noise. In that case, you can plan a date with your closest friend or family member where you can unwind and also pour out your heart, because such people truly care!
4. FOCUS ON YOUR WORK AND SELF DEVELOPMENT :
Get busy with work, especially the work you love. You know what they say, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. So you don’t want to be idle. Give no room to idleness. Work extra hours. Go back to school if you can. Get more degrees. Once your mind is off the marriage issue, you’ll be in a better place mentally and physically.
5. FOCUS ON OTHERS :
People who are too fixated on themselves are prone to depression. But when you live making others happy, you too will be happy. You can’t give what you don’t have. You must be happy to make others happy.
6. GET INVOLVED IN COMMUNITY VOLUNTEERING WORK:
It feels great to serve. Offering your time, energy and resource to serving others sure makes happy. Try it!
7. FORGIVE AND LET GO :
You really don’t have the time and energy to be holding on to bitterness, grudge, resentment or un- forgiveness. Better let it all go. If you refuse to release someone from the wrath of your anger and bitterness, you can never be happy. Their thoughts will automatically send you to an island of uncontrollable bitterness and dissolution! No one is worth paying such a huge price on. So, let it go.. Let it all go so you can live and be happy!
7. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH GOD:
Another beautiful way to spend your time is to spend it with God. Enjoy His presence. Receive divine instructions and heavenly downloads that will make you leap for joy! Attend Church programmes and seminars. Watch great telecast and read fantastic spiritual books and novels that will keep you in the right frame of mind. Also don’t forget to catch up with your other favorite TV programmes that makes you happy.
In conclusion, let me reiterate that it’s time to live and be happy. Do not live your life being desperate and sad just because you want to get married. He that will come will come (Heb 10:37) Your spouse will definitely show up at the appointed time as you continue to live happily and joyfully!
It’s time to live!
ABOUT THE WRITER: Pastor Kay is the co -lead Pastor at Light Arena ministries, Kenya and Nigeria. She’s a wonderful wife, mother, author, writer, publisher, counselor and life coach. She’s currently based in Lagos, Nigeria.